It’s not surprising to me that I’ve been writing a lot of posts about social change and human nature recently, considering I’ve always been interested in psychology and social causes. But all of these things come from extrospection, studying that which is around you. Let’s look at ourselves; introspection is not an easy task for those who don’t take the time.
Although I started this one by writing about body language, I realised what’s the point of reading others if you are not reading yourself? Confused? It’s crucial for us to reflect upon our actions and reactions, conversations, behaviour at least weekly, if not on a daily basis. What differentiates us from other animals, as far as we can tell? We seem to have a unique capability of introspection.
‘Life isn’t meant to be easy, it is meant to be lived…Sometimes happy, other times rough. But with every up and down, you learn lessons that make you strong.’
We get so bogged down in the minute details of life, in the small fights or let-downs by people we love. But we have step back and look at the big picture. Life wants us to be happy, to be at peace with ourselves and with others and most of all, that we don’t need to suffer. Thus, came about my meaning of happiness.
· “How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours.” – Wayne Dyer
You can’t control others’ behaviour or change who they are and what they do, but you can control yourself not to react (which takes a lot of practise). Control your interpretations, behaviour, attitude and perceptions and you will become a happier and less-stressed out person.
· Your beliefs create your reality.
“Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so is he.” – Goethe
Question everything, your beliefs, your parents, the media, your friends, your teachers. Always check if your beliefs are indeed yours or have been passed on by someone else. (This also helps to maintain a healthy amount of introspection.) You have lived your life to this day with your beliefs, you are who you are and where you are because of your beliefs. ‘Heal your limiting beliefs and you will transform your life.’
· Don’t strive for perfection – you can’t get any better than that.
“There are no such things as limits to growth, as there is no limit to human capacity for intelligence, imagination and wonder.” – Ronald Reagan
Perfection is a limitation. What is better than perfection? Nothing. Aim for your best, which can only improve every single time. But the catch is, your best simply has to be YOUR BEST. Even if you don’t accomplish the exact dreams you set out to achieve, take pride in the lessons you learn and master along the journey.
· Make use of your unique talents, which would go to waste otherwise.
“The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find the greatest happiness in using it.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
No matter who you are or what you do, you will have something that you can do better than anyone else. Don’t compare yourself to others, don’t compete and don’t look for external approvals. It is your responsibility to yourself to seize that talent and work on improving it and sharing that awesomeness with the world.
· Remember that you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.
“If you are obsessed with defeating the other guy and winning at all costs, then you are guaranteed to attract the vibrational equivalent of this thinking into life – even if you do yoga and stand on your head chanting mantras everyday.” – Wayne Dyer
We have heard this one but this requires changing your thinking which in turn changes your beliefs, which changes your behaviour which will change your life.